So you think you want a Psychic /Medium Reading?
How will you know if you “get a good one”?
The fact is – not every psychic is genuine, or even genuinely gifted attheir craft. Rather than spend time on explaining what constitute thegenuine psychic – lets talk about how the fraud identifies andexposes themselves, (or the psychic with basic abilities who has notdeveloped them to any level of expertise).
In my personal experience, there are definitely FRAUDS, but what concerns me more is the ones that transfer and project their own personal issues over to the seeker. They have poor boundaries and rely on personal energy (sharing) to retrieve any information. To beclear – this method is NOT a guided reading. It is an “information share” on an energetic level – and some people are definitely more energy sensitive than others and so they can “feel anotherpersons emotions”. This is not an ideal way of reading. I have seen in one public forum where the seeker was despairing as she had been chatting to a man online for about six months and had told him she wanted to develop the relationship further into a romantic one. She put a question to a group of mixed expertise readers, and one of them jumped in” yes yes, don't give up hope! He will meet with you- its love its worth waiting for”. Every other psychic I am sure was the same at me, looking at the computer screen thinking “are you serious? The man has outlined his boundaries apparently more than once, to hold onto hope is to push the personal boundaries and force the man into doing a brutal rejection because she wanted to take the relationship to the “next stage”. It was very clear that the ONE psychic responding with “hold on! He's worth it”.. was extremely emotionally involved in her response, you could almost feel her hysteria in the words, which means that she was picking up on the hysterical emotional state of the seeker. SHE HAD POOR BOUNDARIES,and they compromised her capacity as a reader! It doesn’t make her a bad person, it just doesn't make her a good reader, and in fact makes her the kind of psychic that a seeker would be wise to sidestep.
Why am I concerned about poor boundaries? Over the last few years I havebeen more exposed to mental health in Community Support roles. It hasbeen educational and informative, especially combined with my ownpsychic and intuitive abilities. Anxiety and depression are on theincrease and depending on where we live in the world, it can be ashigh as 2 in 3 people having been diagnosed with it. The most commonform of treatment is through medication and many of the sufferers areactually not employing alternative (and scientifically proven)strategies to heal themselves. Psychologists recommend walking andexercise, and laughter (even faking it) as therapy for anxiety anddepression and also singing and dancing. I am not saying peopleshouldn't medicate – each to their own. As an energy worker howeverthis concerns me in that these kinds of figures must indicate thatthe same statistics are available within energy worker fields (andpsychics). If the way a person obtains their “insight andinformation” is through sharing energy, then there is always goingto be a transfer -if the psychic is picking up information andfeelings from the energy – then they are also sending it over tothe seeker. The energy becomes shared, and so therefore the potentialfor increased anxiety occurs (passing from one person to the next)if the reader doesn't know how to clear and cleanse their auraeffectively after a reading.
So if the above hasn't put you off.. how does a fraudulent psychic behave?
Online psychics who ask your date of birth or your star sign arequestionable. Spiriit doens't actually need your DOB to bring througha valid message and frankly if you are receiving an online psychicreading – it could result in identify theft. I would avoid givingit. The exceptions are of course if you are getting an astrologicalor numerological reading. I am lead to believe that some phoneys willgoogle the latest astro message for your birthday and give that toyou as “guided message”. (reworded and rephrased of course!)
Thefake will tell you that they can offer you something that you can'tdo yourself – spells or tricks. They may also tell you that youhave a curse or are hexed. This kind of comment frightens a personinto buying more readings – buyer beware! You just got suckered ifyou fell for that comment!
The fake will not happily sit for a test. They don't like it as it willexpose them, and they will refuse to sit for a general “demonstrationof skill base”.
The fake will ask you lots of questions and let you tell them all aboutyourself – and that information becomes what they draw their“messages from” which is more about an “educated guess” thanan actual “guided or psychic message”
The fake will ask you about the country or city that you live and evenyour age as this will provide insight into the kind of life andeduction and social status that applies to you.
They will have a large ego and may well tell you that they are famous orworld renowned, or have even read for Holly wood stars. If you havenever heard of them, and all you get is a link to their site, thenrealistically – they are most likely frauds. If they were reallyfamous,at least one of your family or friends will have heardsomething about them.
A GENUINE PSYCHIC
Will validate a reading by telling you some indepth information about yourpast or present that no one else knows about. They won't provide youwith an airy fairy fluffy reading all about the future with no personal or relevant information.
Whenvisiting for a face to face reading – wear casual clothes and limityour jewellery. Everything you wear and the way you sit and talk willscream volumes about your situation and job status etc, including thecar you drive. Often a genuine psychic will struggle to maintain anyform of eye contact with the seeker to ensure that theirvision/message is not “veered” by the messages and observationsof their “physical eyes”. In fact I know some readers that puttheir hands over their eyes when “channelling” to ensure that they deliver a pure and untainted message of guidance.
Will NOT atempt to reel you in and manipulate you into giving moreinformation than you need to. They won't ask a lot of questions andare truly gifted one will not even need a question – theinformation will flow as the question will have been conveyedpsychically before the start of the reading.
Will not give you the information you want to hear, but will convey thesituationa nd the problem as it is, and then provide strategies orsolutions for YOU to consider. They will also say very clearly –that the onus of repsonsilbity is on you and that you have choices inrelaton to the actions. Energy changes – so while the informationmay be conveyed and be RIGHT at the time of the reading,circumstances may alter and the course of action MAY change, so it isimportant for the seeker to pay attention and be aware of anychanges that may impact on the outcome nad the course of action thatthey need to be taking to ensure the best possible results andsuccess of any of their endeavours.
A genuine psychic is aware of karma and understands that divinemesasges are devoid of judgement, and basically outline the situationand will not seek to impose their will on others – they will purelyprovide information. They are a channel for the message. The messagewill be direct and not “confusing”.
Allpsychics have good and bad days – no one is 100 percent accurate ALL the time, so any psychic that claims a 100 % accuracy rate i squesitonable from the onset.
Genuine psychics will give you both the positive information and any upcomingchallenges and provide strategies. They do not withhold informationout of concern for a bad review or repeat business. IF there arechallenges they will deliver them with kindness and compassion andprovide strategies and technqiues even if it is “consult aprofessional”.
Genuinepsychics do not give you false hope, or ask a heap of questions aboutyou. They also ensure that your message is empowering to you andfosters a greater level of peace. They do not speak of fear based subjects such as evil spirits or curses. Their role is not to makeyou frightened but to feel safer and stronger to be able to cope withsituations and cirucmstances.
Anah is a Psychic Medium, who is "bridging the gap" between spirit and mainstream. Her approach is direct, honest and forthright, with a view to empowering people in their physical lives to a greater fulfillment. Anah firmly believes that spirit is the gift to us to empower us to make healthy life choices in the physical and for this reason after many years of focussing on spiritual, metaphysical and "alternative" therapies, Anah decided to study Mental Health and build the bridge between Mind/Heart and physical.She is currently studying toward her Bachelor of Social Work. Anah is also a thinker and reflector and this is reflected in her blogs - she encourages people to question themselves and their motives and to take responsibility for their reactions. Anah hopes to assist people to "think outside the box" and to find their own personal truth.